Do We Ever Overcome Grief
From the Desk of RD
The Reality of Grief – Do We Ever Overcome Grief
Having been on this journey for almost three months, I still feel the pain and loss as intensely as when he took his last breath on April 18, 2024. Tomorrow will mark three months since we said goodbye to Gill, and the intensity of the pain is still deep. Will I ever overcome this loss? My answer today is no because this was an unexpected death. He said goodbye, heading to what was meant to be a routine back surgery, and he never came home. Many questions remain unanswered and will continue to haunt us, but we have no other choice now but to accept what happened.
Figuring out what’s next, what needs to change, where to begin, and then making these decisions is incredibly daunting. I have learned that what holds us back from moving forward is our own unconscious fears and limiting beliefs. Change to anything, be it ourselves or our life circumstances, comes from within.
I am now learning to embrace my whole self, and this is a total game changer. I am now trying to channel my energies into nurturing myself and finding new purpose so I can continue to live a meaningful life.
Will I ever overcome grief? My answer remains no, because the loss of a loved one, your life partner and best friend, is too intense to overcome.
Will I learn to live a purposeful life again? The answer is yes, because I live in gratitude for the time I had with such a wonderful, kind person who raised my children with me.
Grief is a profound and deeply personal journey that changes over time but never truly ends. Rather than something we overcome, grief is a process we learn to live with. The intensity of our sorrow may diminish, and we might find new ways to experience joy and purpose, but the loss of a loved one leaves a permanent imprint on our hearts. Over time, we integrate this grief into our lives, allowing it to transform us and deepen our empathy. Healing comes not from forgetting but from remembering and honoring the memories while continuing to move forward. Grief becomes a part of who we are, a testament to the love and connection we shared.
